Well my problem is solved. I updated my alsa drivers to latest version 1.0.15 and after like 4 reboots and keep trying now it works. Now i have lots of more options on alsa mixer including Recording, Mic, Front Mic.. etc and whenever i plug my headphones it works.
Try to update your alsa drivers to the latest. i went to package manager and removed alsa drivers.. Then used a nice little script that installed alsa for me. because i tried manually with no success.
I used this link:http://www.antonywilliams.com/2007/10/bash-script-to-automate-compiling-alsa.html
I tried without removing previous drivers and didnt work. I had first to remove my current version of alsa and then follow the tutorial.
Hope it helps for you man! Cheers!