Here are the steps for remote desktop access to Linux Mint 13 Maya Mate from Windows.
1. In Maya on install of system, select option: Log in automatically.
2. In Maya, go to Menu/Software Manager/search for vino and install if not installed.
2.1. In Maya to install vino go to Menu/Software Manager/search for vino and double click vino to install.
3. In Maya, go to Menu/Search: Desktop Sharing. If Desktop Sharing not there, go to Menu/Terminal: vino-preferences.
4. In Maya, in the new Desktop Sharing Preferences window:
4.1. Select Allow other users to view your desktop.
4.2. Deselect You must confirm each access to this machine.
4.3. Select Require the user to enter this password.
4.4. Select Automatically configure UPnP router to open and forward ports.
5. In Maya, go to Menu/Terminal: /usr/lib/vino/vino-server --sm-disable to start the vino server. (Terminal is finished when you see: Trying to remove a child that doesn't believe we're its parent. Trying to remove a child that doesn't believe we're its parent.).
6. In Maya, go to Menu/Applications/Preferences/Startup Applications/Add.
Name: vino server startup;
Command: /usr/lib/vino/vino-server --sm-disable.
7. In Maya, close the Terminal.
8. In Maya, go to Menu/Terminal: ifconfig. View the eth0 inet addr which will be xxx.xxx.x.xxx (Maya's IP address).
9. In Maya, go to Menu/Quit/Restart.
10. In Windows, download TightVNC from http://www.tightvnc.com/download.php/
to your Windows PC and install.
11. In Windows, go to Start\All Programs\TightVNC\TightVNC Viewer. Enter Remote Host: xxx.xxx.x.xxx (Maya's IP address) and Connect.
12. In Windows, in the new Authentication window, enter the Password and select OK.
One problem encountered: Do NOT go to Maya's Menu/Control Center/Login Window/Login Window Preferences/Accessibility/Enable accessible login. This messed up Maya and I had to reinstall Maya.
I want to password protect Maya's desktop so Terminal hackers cannot access Maya's desktop. However vino won't load from boot until logged into Maya's desktop.
Perhaps if Maya's Menu/Control Center/Login Window/Login Window Preferences/Accessibility/Enable accessible login worked, password protection could be used and remote desktop viewing from other computers could log in and access with the remote desktop viewing password for security.
Big thanks and good karma to the Linux Mint chat help to help research and build these successful steps!