Ok I finally got this fixed, after hours of hair pulling. I found this post viewtopic.php?f=59&t=8430&p=128534#p128534
and in it was the fix for me, since i had installed the video driver manually, i needed to add nv and nvidia-new to the disabled modules and the nvidia driver now loaded when i rebooted. However, this was working before it broke and i had manually installed the driver so something triggered it to go haywire, which started with the package mint update installed. So to anyone that did not use Envy to install a video driver, don't let mint update install the package "nvidia-glx-new-envy" This is just a guess, and if someone knows please correct me, but if if I had uninstalled envy, i don't think i would have got this update?