First off no one is complaining for the sake of it. I've been using Linux/Unix systems for 10 years, I know what they are and I know what Mint is about.
Mint can still approach LXDE with the goals in mind it wants, user friendliness with again a different approach, LIGHTWEIGHT.
Let me clarify this lightweight user friendliness approach that will work!
1. Install a smaller amount of apps to maintain the goal.
2. Less Gnome dependency and more focus on something like XFce dependency. Also Mint possibly developing their own apps.
3. Less dependency on Gnome apps also for the sake of cutting size down, 300MB-500MB sized distro.
In this goal that Mint wants to move in, Mint has to start placing confidence in the end-user that they are smart enough and capable enough to install what a distro might not have. Mint LXDE should have a smaller amount of apps installed.
Remember Linux is about CHOICES & FREEDOM, so just give the user a small base to work from in this and let them pick and choose to build it up the way they like and take it from there. After all isn't that the reason most are using Linux? Of course it is, people wanted more freedom and choices that is why many jumped on to Linux, besides some other issues, like security and a lack of viruses...
If everyone needs to go to the bigger boat then jump on Gnome, a distro based on LXDE is not going to be the norm and will typically be more experienced users, or someone willing to learn, so give them the choice, just give a basic system with the ability to pick and choose.
After all if all you did was just install a couple of apps, leave it so the system of course is still set up with like the media libs/codecs/flash/java and so on, so that someone can easily just add on and away they go, then you are not destroying this idea of user-friendliness in any way instead you are just reinforcing it in the idea giving over some freedom to the user to make it more their own.
What makes you think because it's smaller it's not user friendly, this has nothing to do with anything, smaller doesn't mean it's not user friendly it just means it's a smaller user friendly system, LOL...
Also in this goal of user friendly you have made a distro that is slower and doesn't respond as fast as it could. Yes Mint LXDE is slower and more sluggish then Lubuntu and that I certainly don't want in a distro like this, I want the utmost in speed and stability that's also a very big point in people using a system like this, they are tired of the slow running hogs that Gnome and KDE can be and they want something that is faster.
One thing I think you have missed in your goals is that you have made them YOUR goals and LOST sight of the people, thinking we are not capable of handling the distro on our own to have a smaller base system and then working from there.
It's a shame to many people are trying to do what you are doing, making a one size fits all distro and this is not what Linux is about, it's suppose to be about freedom, freedom in open-source, freedom with free software and a distro that you are free to make it your own. Now this doesn't mean I'm still not free to make this LXDE my own, the problem is now the end-user has to start with more bloat and rip it out to make it their own and many times when people do this they end up breaking things, so it's better to start from the bottom and work your way up and in LXDE we have to start now at the top the way this has been made and strip it down.
THANKS